Anal can seem pretty intimidating at first. Many people do not realize it is a process. You have to get comfortable with yourself and be confident in your ability. Take the process at your own time to make sure you actually enjoy it. You may find yourself becoming discouraged that the process may take longer for you but you can not give up. Be excited for new feelings and experiences! It will be worth the effort.
What you may need: lube, fingers, butt plugs, toy cleaner, a willing partner, comfort cream or relaxing serums, and other anal safe toys.
Lube should be used every time you are participating in any anal activity as it is not a self lubricating orifice. This will help with comfort and minimize the risk of tearing during penetration. You can find lube that is specifically marketed for anal- usually it is a thicker viscosity so you do not have to keep reapplying. Silicone lube is also a common preference as it is usually more slippery and long lasting (though not always suitable with toys.)
When it comes to butt plugs there are many options. You can buy trainer sets of plugs that usually come three to a package (small, medium, large.) Or you can buy individual plugs in varying sizes and shapes. If you plan on wearing a plug for an extended period of time it is recommended to find one with a T base instead of a round base for a more natural fit. Another thing to consider aside from the sizes/shapes is the material they are made of. When it comes to anal it is wise to gravitate towards silicone, metal, or glass toys. These materials are all safe and with proper cleaning and storage will last a long time. Silicone will be slightly squishy but glass or metal will have less friction and slide in and out easier.
Toy cleaner is a body safe antibacterial soap that keeps your toys in usable condition for a long time. You should be cleaning your toys before and after every use.
Relaxing serums and comfort creams are not to be confused with numbing agents. Numbing agents are extremely dangerous because you would not be able to feel if anything hurts or goes wrong and tears. They will also prevent you from feeling the pleasures of anal. Anal is not supposed to hurt. Relaxing serums and comfort creams simply help your muscles to relax for easier penetration but still allow you to feel everything. Try going through the steps without using these but at any point if you feel like it will help you reach your end goal- go for it!
Anal toys can go further than just butt plugs. You may want to use a dildo, anal beads, a vibrator, etc once you are comfortable and enjoying this type of play. When it comes to putting things in your butt; A flared base is necessary. As mentioned above while talking about plugs, they usually have a round base or a T base. To prevent an unwanted E.R trip to remove something that got stuck in the heat of the moment, stick to a flared base!
Now to begin the step by step guide to anal.
Step 1: It is always a good idea to be super turned on before doing anal. It helps you to relax naturally and be more susceptible to trying new things. By being more relaxed in general that means that your muscles will not be so tense and make for easier insertion. It may help to explore your body and go through this process alone before involving a partner.
Step 2: Start with a finger. It might get a little messy but lube up your finger and insert it. Just start with one. Try moving it in and out and wiggling it around. Get used to the new feeling. After you feel comfortable with that put a second finger in and repeat.
Step 3: Now that you are comfortable with your fingers it is time to move on to your first butt plug. Lots of lube and insert your small plug slowly. If this feels snug stick to using this one for a bit until you get used to it. Wearing it casually around or just to add extra pleasure to masturbating will help your body adjust.
Step 4: You are used to your smallest plug so now move on to the medium plug. You pretty much repeat the process you did for the first plug but this time it is slightly larger. You may have some slight discomfort adjusting to the size change but it should not hurt. Always use lube.
Step 5: Moving from medium to large is a bit more intense than from small to medium. The large plug may be a little bit more intimidating. Do not size up if you do not feel you are ready. Slowly insert the large plug after covering it in lube. Stay relaxed and invested in your goal to achieve anal. This one will be the most snug yet. If you feel ready, try moving it around and teasing yourself slowly moving it in and out. If you do not feel ready to do this with the large plug- do it with the medium plug and work your way back up through the steps.
Step 6: Some people at this point after all the training and lube will be eager to start anal sex and think they are ready. Other people will still be unsure. Moving from butt plugs to toys will give an extra boost of confidence you may need to take your anal adventure a step further. Try finding a small dildo or a longer textured plug. Once you can use the toy confidently moving it in and out, you are ready for anal! If your goal was being able to use plugs and toys, you have completed the steps and should be proud of yourself. If your goal is to do anal with a partner there is one more step.
Step 7: Doing anal with a partner is much different than playing with toys by yourself or just wearing a plug around them. You need to start back at step 1. Be super relaxed and turned on. It is a good idea to do a lot of foreplay before attempting penetration. Insert your own finger(s) or have your partner insert theirs. Remember to use lots of lube and only move at the pace you are comfortable. Wearing one of your plugs for a period of time before doing the anal sex will help your muscles be used to the size and be more accepting to penetration. After all this teasing and foreplay you should be especially turned on and ready to finally do anal. Again, you want to be using a lot of lube. It adds to the sensation and creates a smooth glide between partners. If anything feels wrong, hurts, etc make sure you are communicating with your partner and they know to stop if need be. You might just need a little more practice before the real thing. If everything feels good, you have completed your anal training! Be proud of yourself!
This entire step by step process takes different lengths of time for each individual. Do not stress out that you think you are taking to long or get discouraged. Each individual is different and you need to be safe and enjoying yourself while training your body to accept something new. Anal is hard work and is worth it in the end if you have a goal but it is not for everybody. Buy all the fun butt plugs your heart desires now and continue using them to keep your muscles trained. Enjoy!
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