Aftercare is the period of time after sex in which partners tend to one another's physical, emotional, and psychological needs. This applies to both partners whether dominant or submissive, though the dominant one is usually going to do more for the sub afterwards because of the range of intensity that can occur from that dynamic. "Vanilla" sex should have aftercare, but in BDSM or kink scenes it is even more important as these are often very intense, and can often be emotionally and psychologically draining. Physical injuries are also not uncommon to occur during these scenes that must be taken care of afterwards to avoid serious injuries.
Aftercare is simply the concept of taking care of your partner after sex. Some people may do it naturally without even realizing. But many don't think it is necessary or real- and that needs to change.
Unique to each individual, aftercare comes in many forms. The most common form of aftercare is simply cuddling and getting comfortable together after an intimate session. It may also just be talking and making sure everything was enjoyed! With more intense sexual scenes will come different forms of aftercare, and it is ALWAYS unique to the individuals. That is why communication is so important (in any relationship, but especially in sexual ones and involved in the aftercare afterwards.) Your partner is not a mind reader and will not always know what you need or is right for you in specific situations- so don't be afraid to let them know.
Some people might think the concept of aftercare is strange. "Well if I feel fine they must be fine" is the wrong mentality to have. No matter how "vanilla" or kinky the sex is, it shows normal human decency to check up on your partner. If you plan on seeing each other multiple times, it will help make every experience greater than the last for the both of you and promote willingness to experiment because you will feel more comfortable with each other. If it was a one time hookup, you can leave knowing for a fact you made the other person feel good.
Being cared about outside of sex is an important thing for any person to experience. Humans need care and intimacy especially after sexual relations to maintain a healthy relationship with their sexuality.
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